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You have often seeing erotic scenes in the movies where people tend to orgasm together and fall in ecstasy after reaching the highest points of pleasure at the same moment. It is generally considered to be the clear sign of compatibility that indicates you were created for each other etc. But it is far from reality.
In fact compatibility has nothing in common with reaching orgasm simultaneously. Of course, it is nice to finish together rather than continuing sex trying to please your partner when you already cooled down, but it is still ok. Woman shouldn’t finish by your will. It would be better to hold out until you make sure she finishes or you may finish whenever she wants you to.
If you still manage to finish shortly after she does, there is a great possibility she won’t be completely satisfied. Women tend to grind out, so quick orgasming will deprive her of this. So, hold out a little bit in order to let her get more orgasms.
Even when woman finishes, in most cases she likes to continue thrusting against you for a little while. It allows her to work out the remainder of orgasm and reach the highest points of pleasure. So, premature deflating will not bring as much satisfaction from sex as it could. By the way, don’t forget to pull out your penis as soon as you finish if you are using condom in order to avoid sperm flowing out.
Of course, there will be cases you won’t be able to control yourself and hold out, but try to make it an exception rather than a rule. There will be also times she would want you to finish together with her, so go for it. Remember, your number one goal is pleasing her. But in most cases she would want you to hold out a bit longer in order to get full gamma of delight.
So, finishing at the same time is not always as good as it is illustrated in romantic movies. Creating a platform for her pleasure is a base of a good sex. However the worst thing that can happen in bed- you preliminary finishing. This is almost as bad a leaving her without orgasm at all.
