[Amelia]

There are so many people around me who are nice, kind, loving, forgiving and being taken for granted, ignored and used by men and women and dumped over and over... why does it happen???



I guess the first reason is that you like him more than he likes you and it creates this imbalance. Since he isn't as invested in you as you are into him...His side is heavier. He knows that he is in control of the relationship as he can clearly see that you are completely into him. The best and the only good way to tackle this; is to stop being too invested in him.

Maybe you've become too boring or predictable...your sex is predictable and you eat the same things, you make the same hairdo everyday..is it your case? If this is true with you, then change all this right away! Predictability is a direct killer of attraction and when there is no attraction he will definitely take you for granted.

Another reason for it is that he just doesnt love you anymore..then, there is nothing to do with it. Just leave!

[Amelia]

Some great tips:

Don't nag - as much as you can
Nagging is the tried and tested way to make your man tune out to your voice. Remember that nagging isn't necessarily putting your hands on your hips and yelling at him. You can be using a low voice, but if you keep on relentlessly badgering him about something, he would still learn to tune you out.

Don't complain too much
If you see a lot of negative things and not appreciate the good things in life, then he will begin to look at you in with that same point of view.

Don't feel sorry for yourself
Once you start feeling sorry for yourself when he fails to pay you the attention you crave, he would feel guilty. But this isn't healthy for you and your relationship. Instead of self-pity, go for self-improvement.

Make him feel good about himself
Men usually respond to women depending on how his woman makes him feel about himself. If a woman is supportive, the man would seek her company more.

Make yourself scarce
Sometimes, you need to stay away so your man would realize your value. You can either go on a short vacation (without him), or simply be busy.

Be a wonderful companion
If you are pleasant to be with and you know how to enjoy yourself, then he would have good reasons to want to join you -- to enjoy life with you. He wouldn't want to take you for granted if you are fun to be with.

Toss unnecessary troubles away
If you are too troubled with little things, or are too busy to even care about how you look, then it's time to self-evaluate in front of the mirror. Toss away insignificant troubles, smoothen away the frown lines and soften the hardened facial muscles caused by worries.

Try to maintain your inner and outer beauty
Draw beauty from within yourself. Smile. Be positive. Hit the gym. Go to the salon. Do these things, not for him but for you. Once you stop taking yourself for granted, then you are giving him a good reason not to take you for granted.

[Veronica]

good tips, but i think some people are 'consumers' by nature and we can hardly do anything about it.

[Mary]

tnx for sharing, great tips!